World Peace is not enough for me. I wish for all people to ascend personally and globally to Unconditional Love – to love and respect our fellow humans, animals, and the earth in an unselfish and mutually healthy way.

Love is just the starting point for Unconditional Love to completely encompass you and others. Unconditional love heals, bonds, and unites. Unconditional Love is accepting yourself and others for who and where you are. It moves well beyond merely tolerating in a passive aggressive manner. Has someone you loved ever said any of the following (just fill in the banks)?

• I love you, but you should have been a(n) ___________.
• I love you, but I don't accept ________________ about you.

I could provide pages of examples but I think you get the idea.

You must first love yourself and give yourself permission to feel love in order to truly give and receive unconditional love. Everyone is on different paths and and has different levels of ability to give and receive Unconditional Love. This may mean that you may conflict with other people's ideas, current belief systems, or personal values. At times, it can seem like there really are multiple realities. This can happen especially within families, between parent and child, between siblings, and even within any close relationship. Be true to yourself and realize with as much compassion and unconditional love for yourself that the other person's belief systems are their own. They may be selfishly trying to push and squeeze you into their mold. But don't give up hope for them as they too, with the willingness, have the capacity to learn new belief systems and grant themselves and you unconditional love. You can try your best to Unconditionally Love them while providing them Tough Love standing your ground and protecting yourself from negativity within their “issues”.

You may end up inspiring them to change their opinions or beliefs. But remember, YOU can't change anyone but YOURSELF. That is why you must be the change you want to see. It starts with you. Do you love yourself? Do you want to? Our reality tunnels – the glasses that we view the word through – are shaped by the totality of our experiences, including, but certainly not limited to:

• Rules provided in attempt to alter our self empowerment. We all have to live by a set of rules in our complex society and lives, but the one's I refer to are those that other people have placed on you that limit you to grow in a healthy way to your fullest ability.

• Mistakes that we've not given ourself full unconditional love to forgive ourselves, realize our self-worth, and extend if necessary a specific apology if we infringed or hurt another.

• Conditioning - family, society, religious or systematic

• Quarrels that you and others involved have not yet have moved beyond.

• Fears

• Self doubt

• Bad body image ideas

• Learned Stereotypes

• Learned Prejudices

• Learned religious dogmatic teachings that hold you back verses lift you up to a full and rich experience with the divine, God, nature, Allah, Buddha or your own higher power.

Do you have the ability to let these things go if necessary?

You must, in a healthy way, let go of what other people's idea of what you should be, could be, ought to be, and just be. All too often we give others too much power by valuing their opinion of yourself so much that you do things, take life paths, achieve something all not for yourself, but for that other person(s). Sometimes it might be going to one college because your father went there over your choice. It could be marrying a woman and having children with her even though you are having difficulties suppressing your true self as a questioning gay man. All because you grew up in a Baptist Church or similar. It could be running yourself ragged playing taxi service to the kids so that you can stay up with the neighbors or "in-crowd" in some way.
With this I'll add for those of you with children, you need to let go of what your preconceived ideas of what and who your child will be and allow them to grow into who they are. I don't mean you should not provide the love, acceptance, guidance, rules, structure and appropriate discipline. I just mean to a healthy degree let go over fantasy of relived youth, forcing the child to do and act in ways that is not their path. 

The goal is to convert negativity to a positive life and way of thinking. While not allowing those on different levels of growth to overly negatively influence you. That is unconditionally love yourself and others while not being someones else's door mat. Likewise, you don't be the strong fist. Every day is an opportunity to grow. I'm still on my journey too.

So, I want to explore the path of trying to practice unconditional love and spark a light in you. . 

Let's grow together.

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